There is nothing quite as extraordinary as falling in love. Those first few months are simply magical. However, once real-life steps in and job issues arise, someone gets sick, or either of you experiences money troubles, your relationship can suffer greatly. What I have learned over my lifetime is that love isn’t enough to keep a relationship healthy. Why is that?
You are Your Past
Everything that has happened to you in the past, including any childhood trauma, abuse, or toxic relationships, becomes a part of you. You carry all of that into every new relationship unless you take steps to release the emotional trauma and clear out those negative behaviors.
I carried a lot of baggage into my relationships, and it showed. I spent most of the time blaming my partner. I truly believed that it was all them and not me. After years of working on my own issues, I can see that a lot of the problem was me. Regardless of how my partner behaved in the relationship, I only reacted the way I did because of my past issues. But at the time, I couldn’t see that. I thought my reaction was completely normal and well-deserved.
Now that I have cleared out a lot of that garbage, I can experience the same situation much differently, and I don’t react the same way. I have the pleasure of choosing how I want to be in every instance. It’s a great feeling to look back and see the past and how much I have changed. But it only happens if you want to change.
A Healthier Relationship
Although most of us are doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again in relationships because we tend to form patterns, you can change them. However, it takes some work to get there.
First, you must find a way to become fully aware that you are acting in a way that you don’t want. I found out by working with an EFT coach for two years. Healing my past traumas opened my eyes to my own behavior and who really I was. Once you accept the fact that love isn’t enough, you can take steps to improve any relationship.
Once you can see these things, you can start to change them. You cannot fix what you can’t see. The best way to clear out your past and create a healthier relationship is to work with an energy coach or healing expert.
I believe the best way to be better in any relationship is to focus on healing yourself and changing what you don’t like about yourself. When you strive to become a better person, you cannot help but be better in relationships.
A Plan for More Positive Relationships
I am writing a book on how to improve romantic relationships. I want to help people struggling in an unhealthy or deteriorating relationship rebuild and start over. It is entirely possible because me and my partner did it! If you want to know more about the techniques in my book, please get in touch with me.
There is hope; you can revitalize even the worst relationship with a bit of work and some healthy changes.