There is a phrase in AA which I love called the “gift of desperation.” It refers to the point at which an alcoholic is so miserable and has hit such a bottom that they can no longer continue to live in pain and finally reach out for help. I love that they call this a gift. Without this gift, they may never reach of point of changing their lives through spirituality and receiving all the incredible help that is just waiting for them to ask.

We All Suffer For Too Long

I see a lot of friends, family members and acquaintances that are suffering either from physical, mental or even spiritual pain but they chose to do nothing about it. They avoid change like the plague. I sometimes ponder over why they choose to suffer instead of taking action to get any better, but then I am reminded of my own path and my story.

The other day I had a moment of truth and clarity in remembering my situation. Back when I was suffering from my illness and needed surgery, I wish I had my tool belt of spiritual resources. I am sure the outcome would have been different. I believe I could have healed myself and even avoided surgery but then again….perhaps I needed to get that miserable in my life to take action. I firmly believe that I would not have reached out and surrendered to the power of the universe and begged for help, which came in the form of my cousin and his wife, had I not been in so much emotional pain.

Be the Example to Help Others

It is my nature to want to help when I see someone suffering. The problem is, often people don’t want or even need our help. Recently I discussed this with a friend. You cannot force help on someone who doesn’t want it.

There are people I know with severe anxiety, depression, childhood traumas or fears which I know could be cured with EFT. Other friends where I am witness to their relationship issues, insecurities or just plain dissatisfaction with life. I know other people who are suffering from health issues and getting nowhere with traditional medicine. Despite the fact that I know spiritual techniques that would cure them for good, they are deaf to my suggestions.

It can be frustrating when you want to help and have all these great tools you use, but those suffering don’t even want to hear it. So what can you do?

The best way to help them is to be the living example and show them how you changed your life, healed your illness or injury and improved your situation through your mindful methods. Just being around you and seeing how happy and healthy you are, will remind them of how miserable they are. Perhaps this will encourage them to want what you have found and lead them to take action to heal issues within their own lives.

How Long Will You Suffer? How Much Pain Will it Take?

If you are the one suffering, ask yourself, how much pain and suffering am I willing to endure until I take some action to heal myself, my mind, my body and become a beacon of hope for others?

Change can seem daunting and at times even overwhelming, and there have been people which I thought incapable of change, but I was wrong. Each person just has to get to their bottom level of pain, and then they are ready to ask for help, start using God/The Universe as their source for healing, and then the miracles start flowing!

My hope for you in the new year is that you will decide to stop suffering. Start taking charge of your life. Your life doesn’t just have to “happen to you.” You can choose what job you have, who you love, how much money you make, how healthy and happy you are, if you only take that first step toward healing.

Let 2018 be your BEST year ever!