Self-love has never been easy for me. My generation was raised to believe that self-improvement was a bunch of nonsense. Back then, fostering self-esteem was never a goal of parenting. Thus, many of us grew up not feeling very good about ourselves. Even hearing the words self-love used to make me feel uncomfortable like it was something to be ashamed of, and instead, I should be harder on myself. If that doesn’t say it all, I don’t know what does.
Everyone is Constantly Telling Us Who to Be
Family, friends, and society continue to dictate who we “should be.” When we deviate from this perfect image, the more we feel inadequate and left out, and we start to dislike ourselves for not measuring up. I have struggled with this forever, and most people I know have the same issues with self-image and low self-esteem. It is a popular theme with us Generation Xers.
A Lack of Self-Love Blocks Our Greatness
The problem with that is that I have goals. I want to bring my spiritual message in a larger way to the world, and a low self-image blocks me from doing that. I can’t see myself leading a movement or helping others when I feel that I am not worthy or good enough. My goals and lack of self-love collided recently and created a problem for me. So, I have been working hard on it for a while now through meditation and hypnotherapy. I am happy to say things have changed dramatically!
The Path to Self-Love
About a month ago, I had an amazing and transformative hypnotherapy session (with a beautiful lightworker and healer) around self-esteem and confidence. It was miraculous and released many old, negative beliefs about my self-worth. I came out of it feeling almost giddy because I could feel the change instantly.
I have also been using my Calm Meditation app every day to improve my relationship with myself. A month ago, I couldn’t have told you what it feels like to truly love myself, but now I can.
As part of my self-love journey, I also use my Tapping Solution app to rid myself of negative energy from others, give myself a boost of courage when I need it, and ease the effects of stress and anxiety.
The Results are Amazing
I feel very different in so many ways. I now appreciate all of me, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I take notice of the little things, and I congratulate myself on a job well done. I am learning how to focus on my best qualities rather than the characteristics I wish I could change. I view myself as though I am admiring a good friend. I feel a real warmth and closeness with my higher power, and I think this is what self-love is really about. Although we call it self-love, it’s more about learning how to connect with our higher self and let that love in. This love seems to come from outside of me, but it’s teaching me how to be kind to myself and patient with my body.
It’s Like Falling in Love
I feel appreciated, admired, safe, protected, accepted, and completely loved without judgment. I can honestly say it is a great feeling. It feels like I have fallen in love, and for the first time, I know it will last because I am in control of all of it. I can choose how this grows and how this develops into something even deeper and more meaningful. I can make sure I cultivate this self-love and keep it going forever.
I am learning how to put my needs first and make me the priority. The more I feel good about me, the less I need anyone else, and I like that feeling. It’s wonderful not to have to rely on someone else for validation, love, or appreciation. I can freely give those things to myself whenever I need them. I am getting really good at self-soothing and positive self-talk. Instead of beating myself up for not doing something perfectly, I use love and compassion to ease my distress.
Self-Love Gives Us Wings
Some beautiful side effects of this recent self-love work are that I feel even more independent. I don’t feel like I need acceptance from other people; I am giving it to myself. I don’t feel that I need for others to soothe me or boost me up when I am down, I am my own security blanket and my biggest fan. The best part is, I don’t need to wait for someone else to love me; I already have the greatest love in the world.
This newfound self-love gives me great confidence and the courage to move forward with my dreams. Instead of feeling like “who am I to bring my message to the world,” instead, I feel like “why not me?”
Loving myself and accepting who I am, helps me to see others more compassionately too. I am not this body, nor am I only this mind, I am so much more than that, and so is everyone else. We are all the same; we all want love and acceptance.
It is a great feeling not needing anyone else’s validation and support. I can enjoy what people bring to my life cleanly without any neediness. I feel brave and strong because I have “ME” to take care of me, and that is enough. I am enough.